New Trend: Vasectomies For Single Men Under 30

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Like many men, Toby Byrum decided to have a vasectomy to end his reproductive years. Unlike most of them, Byrum had his at the age of 28 while he is still single and childless.

Two years later, the Web consultant from Jackson Hole, Wyoming, has no regrets.

I view the next 15-20 years of my life as some of the best years Im going to live. I wanted to make sure those years were . . . going to make me ultimately the happiest person I could be, he told TODAY co-host Matt Lauer.

Hes not alone. Urologists around the country say that they are seeing a small but growing number of young men who are deciding to have vasectomies when they are young, all but insuring that they will never be able to have children of their own.

Its kind of getting to be a departure from this society a wife, a husband, have kids, live in the suburbs, and instead is more, Maybe we dont want to have kids, Byrum said.

This was on the Today show!! Here's the rest!

Fellas, WOW!!!! More and more younger guys are making themselves infertile with NO regrets.

Makes sense. Kids mess up your ability to enjoy your life and since sex doesn't really have much to do with procreation, as many religious people practice, what's the point? Is that right?

Thoughts?

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These people are ridiculous. He's only been baby-precluded for TWO YEARS. How does he know he won't have regrets in TEN years? And what sort of woman is he going to try to marry who doesn't want to have any kids? Adoption is always open, I guess...

Also, the idea that having lots of sex will make him happy might be true in the short term, though it just screams for a midlife crisis in a few years.

This is very frightening. I tend to go Catholic on this issue. We cannot continue to disassociate sex with procreation...it's selfish and arrogant. It's time to open a can of Dr. Jennifer Roback-Morse on these guys.

What does this say about:
This generation's fathers?
Initiation into manhood? Do we need one? What would it look like?
Legacy?
Consumerism?

I think this goes deeper than disassociating sex with procreation--this stems ultimately from a disassociation of sex with marriage. It also deeply saddens me that people of any age, but especially young people, would consider children to be an obstacle to a happy life. I would guess they have a really screwed up idea of what happiness actually is.

Yet another man whose ideal of the good life is permanent adolescence.

This is a VERY reflexive response that some of you might help me think through more thoroughly, but I'm not sure I've got a big problem with unbelievers not procreating. What I have a really big problem with is Christians adopting the mindset that children are hindrances to personal happiness and limiting their output to the very American standard of 2.5 kids (or whatever the current average is). An adjunct professor at CTS recently asked his class, "Why do you think Islam is the most rapidly growing religion in the world? I'll give you a hint: It's not evangelism." It's because Muslims are prolific procreators whose kids grow to adopt their worldview. If that stopped, I'm not sure it would be a cause for sorrow. However, if Christians followed the lead of Muslims in this area, that would certainly be a cause for celebration since, hopefully, their covenant kids would fulfill the mandate of mediating the knowledge of God to the rest of the world. Thoughts?

While I understand some of the expressed reservations, I can't help but feel like Toby's choice is Toby's choice. We're certainly not talking about abortion here.

One good thing from this is that Toby will never father a child he doesn't want, and that child will never have to deal with an unloving father.

I think it's great. There's a lot more to life than procreation. Besides, there's no way this planet can sustain the birth rate we're producing at the moment.

Why do Christians think that unbelievers will have similar values, when they don't practice the same virtues?
Toby doesn't like condoms (who does?) and doesn't want extra responsibility, so he went to Dr. V (funny this is a day after Guy Fawkes').
Perhaps the decision is consideration for their female partners, though. The pill is getting better, but it still messes with women's chemistry, and can really be bad for some, so this option may be sacrificial love in some cases.
2 other thoughts:
Having fewer children is a luxury, just like a clean environment.
Any argument that involves fear of invading hordes of Muslims is not inspired of God and goes completely against the direction of the gospel.
Nathanael Snow
ndsnow@gmail.com

Obviously we can't expect Byrum to open up the Bible and ask the question of whether or not his choice was right. His life choices are based off an entirely different framework than that of the Bible and he must meet Jesus first before we can expect him to give a damn about the Bible.

But it's interesting, as I've seen similar attitudes amongst Christians. Whether they are convinced they simply wouldn't be good parents or don't want any kids messing with their "dream life" ideal... (which seems to go against Jesus' teaching that children are a blessing from God, not a curse)

God did tell Adam and Eve to "increase in number"... whether that command applies to us or not is debatable perhaps.

this just makes that much it easier for those of us churning out kids to take over the world. if you're crazy enough to do something like that, perhaps we're all better off if you dont have any offspring ;-)

O, GID, I think 'ol Toby's got the dementia thing down already--vasectomy didn't change a thing there. More or less, I think Drama nails it, and he just wants to fool around without risking being a daddy.

He's going to find out, though, that the portion of women who are fine with that isn't going to get him companionship in a decade or two.

What where you guys talking about? Yea the deed is done but I had three kids before then. This guy has know idea what he has done, there are complications and he will find out what those are when women find out just how dumb he is!! Ouch

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I see no issues with this, my family doctor did mine in 1980, I was 19 at the time, in no relationship and childfree, I have not once regreted the choice. why does everyone get so darn upset at what other people do? it is not a "selfish" thing as many who oppose this choice may think, in my opinion many wish they had had one instead of their kids... they seem to just want to make us (who have made a "wiser" decision) feel like the black sheep of society...I am also a christian, however, i see no "sin" in this choice to not have children...but oh how they love to pile on the guilt! Hey guys, I simply do not have the temperment to be a parent, and who knows me better than me?

I see no issues with this, my family doctor did mine in 1980, I was 19 at the time, in no relationship and child free, I have not once regretted the choice. why does everyone get so darn upset at what other people do? it is not a "selfish" thing as many who oppose this choice may think, in my opinion many wish they had had one instead of their kids... they seem to just want to make us (who have made a "wiser" decision) feel like the black sheep of society...I am also a Christian, however, i see no "sin" in this choice to not have children...but oh how they love to pile on the guilt! Hey guys, I simply do not have the temperament to be a parent, and who knows me better than me?

"I simply do not have the temperament to be a parent"

This is what I don't get. Does anyone really have the temperament to be a parent? Apart from God's grace, I don't think so. So it kinda seems like a moot reason...

(That said, folks argue the same regarding birth control and God controlling the womb, soo.... hmm.)

true, it's not a sin, so people shouldnt make you feel guilty. but if you're a christian, I think the guilt-piling-on comes from the fact that if you're not married, you need to keep it in your pants, so then what's the point? and if you are married, you just might someday want kids, and there's lots of other less drastic options available to you.

and at one time I was terrified of kids. now, in my experience, they're just about the awesomeist thing ever.

David, Malachi 2:15 points out that one of the key reasons God made man and wife "one" is because He desired Godly seed. Hence, I would argue that a Christian ought not even consider vasectomy unless he's at least got a few kids under his belt, or unless having more kids would maim or kill his wife.

And sorry, but who knows at age 19 whether he's going to be able to handle kids or not? Sorry, but I question the judgment of any urologist who's doing these on kids just out of high school.

Let's blow the whole thing wide open and recommend the procedure for folks in the inner city who can't keep it in their pants. Subsidize it. Require it.
I'm totally kidding, btw.

WOW! This is some crazy stuff. While I can't bag the guy cause at least he isn't killing anyone, such as aborting a baby. But at 27, as a husband and a father of two beautiful girls, I can't imagine going through life without them. They bring so much joy and happiness to my life.

We forget that the whole purpose of parenting isn't giving birth, but rather raising kids (James 1:27). The world population is overwhelming, while the vast majority of people, Christians especially, simply add to it by having their own biological kids, instead of adopting. The fact that this topic is on this Christian website should be a clue as to our (misguided) attitudes about focusing on the family. I have no problem with what this guy did.

"The world population is overwhelming, while the vast majority of people, Christians especially, simply add to it by having their own biological kids, instead of adopting."

We DO need more Christians adopting children, yes.

Overpopulation is BS. We are tens of thousands away from reaching overpopulation. Go read up on it if you don't believe me.

This is not news. I had mine when I was 21, back in 1989. I have no children. My brother did the same. We have no other siblings.

I don't see why this is such a big deal. Even if in 10 years time he regrets his decision, then:

1) Vasectomies can often be reversed
2) His testicles will still be producing sperm that can be extracted and used for artificial insemination.

He's not been castrated!

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